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Obedience Training vs Humiliation and Degradation

I define obedience training as convincing someone to do things, or accept things being done to them. The things that are done, and the way the person is convinced can vary widely. It doesn't have to be sexual, difficult, or even noticeable to other people, but the more difficult it is to obey the more enjoyable it is for the dominant.

Obedience training is an umbrella than spans many specific types of play like orgasm control and pet play, and it mixes with other kinks to give us several more. Despite the popularity of it's sub-types, obedience training gets little attention of it's own. There isn't even a commonly accepted term for it.

A close relative that does get attention is humiliation and degradation. I use them together because they are almost the same thing, but I suppose they are technically different. Humiliation is getting someone to do something embarrassing, like wearing slutty clothes in public. Degradation is making someone feel worthless, like calling a person names.

Obedience and humiliation / degradation get confused sometimes, and I can see why; they both involve making a person do something they wouldn't do otherwise, but there are vast differences that stand out when you dig deeper.

A sub dresses like a slut because they are a slut, they are called names because that's what they deserve. Humiliation and degradation diminish a person from the outside (though the deeper effects can be different). Another interesting quality is that it almost always causes immediate sexual excitement for those who enjoy it.

Obedience play is rarely immediately gratifying, but it does scratch a deep itch that is hard to reach otherwise. It can be presented in a degrading way, but it doesn't have to be. It's more cerebral than humiliation, and can have interesting effects. For example, having a submissive behave like a pet is humiliating at first, but when they embrace it, it can become a deeply rewarding and even nourishing experience.

I don't generally like humiliation and degradation because of it's negativity. I hate it when someone tells me they are worthless, or they deserve to be treated a certain way. What's the fun in conquering a spineless worm? I would much rather have a strong and proud person choose to kneel for me, and feel genuinely happy when I praise them for their hard work and devotion.
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