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Book Review: Real Service

Real Service
Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny
First published in 2011

As the name implies, this book is all about service. It's filled with useful information about styles of service, the power dynamics of service, and practical information about serving. It's also has helpful lists to help you figure out your own style. They keep the text grounded in real experiences and stories while also providing insightful abstractions to illustrate key concepts.

This was a fantastic book, and I learned a lot from it.

I quite liked Joshua's four rules of service. The first in particular deserves to be repeated widely: "If the master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service."

Another part I found fascinating are the three motivations for submission: transactional (doing it for pleasure, payment, or other personal gains), devotional (doing it out of love for the master), and positional (doing it because you are meant to). They talk about the advantages and disadvantages of each, and ultimately suggest that the healthiest motivation is a balance of all three.

I could keep going, but if you want to know more, you'd be better off reading the book yourself.

Recommendation

For any dominant who likes service, this book will probably be useful to you. It'll help you understand service-types better, and help you understand what you want from them. I think it would be a good introduction for a new dominant, but also bring a deeper understanding for one with more experience too.

If you are resolved to be a servant, this book is full of practical tips and recommendations that can improve your craft. If your interest is still in the fantasy stage, you may be disappointed that this book is not fap material.

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