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Chores as Kink

C has been doing really well as our first houseboy. He's been coming over about twice a week, which seems to be a good pace. He does a few basic chores every time he comes over: change the cat litter, sweep the floors, do dishes, and clean the kitchen. Once a week we add some other chore like wiping down the counters or cleaning behind the stove.

It has made a huge difference. Our home looks so much better now than it used to. I had worried that I would stop doing chores if someone else started, but I'm doing just as much as before, even sometimes while C is doing his. The difference now is that I am doing different ones that used to get put off. My office is more organized, computer chores are getting done, and I've made progress on a few little projects around the house that I've wanted to do since we moved in. This may change if I get more accustomed to a house boy, but for now the result is fantastic.

In terms of kink, it is a strange one. I don't fantasize about him scrubbing the floors, but while he is working I am almost constantly erect. I don't think it's because he's naked and collared, or because I can often see the chastity device dangling there while he works, though they certainly don't hurt. I think it's the knowledge that he's doing these mundane chores because he wants to make us happy.

There are lots of subs I've talked to who don't enjoy this kind of service; they need sexual stimulation, constant attention, or some other thing to keep them excited and in a submissive mood. This kind of sub is still plenty fun to play with, but you would generally use them as part of foreplay and sex.

C leans toward the service side. He enjoys making us happy, but wouldn't do it without the kinky play that follows. There are some subs out there who enjoy serving enough that they don't need the kink to feel satisfied, but this hybrid of service and kink seems to be much more common.

It's a great arrangement we have going: we get to enjoy a clean house, he is proud to be contributing, and everyone has fun when we play afterwards.

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  1. A little mixture of service and kink goes a long way in my eyes. Let us hope that we can all find such great subs.

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