Inferiority Complex

When spending time online in chat rooms and forums you get to meet people with varying attitudes and opinions. I get along with most, and am usually not bothered by beliefs even radically different to my own, but there are some exceptions. For example: this notion that submissives are somehow inferior or unworthy of basic rights, and dominants are magically smarter, wiser, better, and entitled to anything we want.

First of all, it's not sincere. I like humility in a submissive, but if they honestly believe they are worthless then they should be getting professional help. As I've mentioned before, I prefer submissives that are confident and strong. Constant self-deprecation becomes tiresome quickly.

Being told that I am superior is also a nuisance. I work hard to be a good Dom. I work hard to be good in my career, to be good to my wife, and to be a better person generally. I'm proud of who I am, but I'm a long way from being a superior being. I like to be appreciated, but appreciation given without getting to know me has no value, and is even rude in a sarcastic sort of way. Being told I am superior because of my gender or race is even worse. I want to be appreciated for who I am, not what I am.

If anything, I believe that submissives are better people than dominants. These are people who are hard wired to put others needs ahead of their own. They are willing to work harder and longer, willing to be pushed beyond limits that would be reasonable for most, all while showing extreme humility. As a dominant, I exploit others for my own selfish amusement. I have no regrets about who and what I am, but thinking about it objectively, if the world were populated by only one kind of person, submissives would be the best possible choice.

It also bugs me when someone offers to do anything I want, and especially when they know nothing about me. I like it when a submissive is courteous and polite, and perhaps a little more so with dominants, but there is a hidden line that shouldn't be crossed so easily. If it's too easy, it doesn't seem serious. Those who offer easily tend to disappear easily too.

There are lots of dominants who demand instant respect and constantly flattery. If that makes them happy then I wouldn't suggest they do any different. I just don't want submissives to be ridiculous about it with me. It's like the difference between cats and dogs. A dog will show loyalty to anyone that feeds it, a cat takes effort and patience, but is that much more rewarding when affection is given. I am a cat person. I would rather earn the respect I am given.

If you're a submissive and you find yourself chatting with me some day, I would be delighted if you were simply polite and sincere. Talk to me like an equal, say what you're thinking, tell me if you disagree with something I say. If, and only if you decide you'd like to, ask if you can do more to make me happy.