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Keeping K Submissive

Although I thoroughly enjoyed the scenes I did with K, the most interesting part for me was keeping him submissive between them. It was a new experience for all of us, and a good opportunity to test what it would be like to have a live-in slave. There were, however, a couple challenges that I didn't expect.

From the moment I pulled the towel away from him, K required my permission to do anything except drink water and use the bathroom. From that moment, he was no longer an equal. Until the day that he left, he was expected, and occasionally reminded, to observe these restrictions.

This started like any other scene; we were all thinking about what we were doing. He didn’t make many mistakes, but when he did they were easily corrected. After a day, it became more difficult to focus. A few times he randomly did something without thinking about it, and I wouldn't always notice. I was surprised by how difficult it was to keep myself focused after the first day, but when I did, his behaviour remained very good.

After another day, I noticed that K was occasionally losing his submissive mood. He would start talking about his friends, or his job, or about something he was doing at home. It seemed like natural conversation at first, but his tone and expressions changed. It seemed that it was holding him back, so I set about fixing it.

The next time his tone started changing, I took his hair in my hand and gripped it firmly, pulling just enough to cause some discomfort. He stopped talking mid-sentence, his personality softened. After he was back in the mood I wanted, I relaxed my grip, and asked him to continue.

It took him a moment to remember where he was, but started again obediently. It didn't take long before he changed from gentle submissiveness back to serious, so I repeated the procedure.

As we continued, he could go longer and longer without losing his mood. After a few hours, he could talk about pretty much anything without changing back. It improved his ability to submit as well; after this, he began to dive much deeper into his submissive mindset, continuing to improve up until the day he left.

I didn't truly realize how deep we had gone until after K returned home.

To be continued. . .

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