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Keeping K Submissive

Although I thoroughly enjoyed the scenes I did with K, the most interesting part for me was keeping him submissive between them. It was a new experience for all of us, and a good opportunity to test what it would be like to have a live-in slave. There were, however, a couple challenges that I didn't expect. From the moment I pulled the towel away from him, K required my permission to do anything except drink water and use the bathroom. From that moment, he was no longer an equal. Until the day that he left, he was expected, and occasionally reminded, to observe these restrictions. This started like any other scene; we were all thinking about what we were doing. He didn’t make many mistakes, but when he did they were easily corrected. After a day, it became more difficult to focus. A few times he randomly did something without thinking about it, and I wouldn't always notice. I was surprised by how difficult it was to keep myself focused after the first day, but when I did, h...

Exploring Breath Play, By Accident

Many times during his visit, K and I sat and talked about how things were going. It wasn't as glamorous as some of the other things we did, but it really helped us to build trust and keep things going smoothly. During one such chat, not long after the failed attempt at a oral, K started nibbling on my finger. It was an adorable way for him to show respect, appreciation, and desire. As flattered as I was, I wanted more. Soon after he started nibbling, I pushed my finger into his mouth. He didn't resist it, but I don't think he was expecting it either. I probed his mouth, feeling his tongue, reminding him in a very primal way that every part of him was available to me. He still didn't fight, which was even more flattering, but I wanted even more. I pushed deeper until I was gently touching the back of his mouth. I assumed the funny face he made was a gag reflex, but when we discussed it later, he explained that I was blocking his airway. I was startled, not only becau...

Building Trust For Both of Us

I am extremely flattered by the trust that K showed me. Not only did he travel to a new country to meet me, and allow me to bind and play with him, but he also trusted me to be the first male Dom he's played with sexually. Sexual play has never been a main attraction for me, but breaking in a new guy is a treat that's hard to turn down. The more time he spent with us, the more comfortable we all became with him in a submissive role. At first he was constantly covering himself, shying away when we looked, but over time he became more confident, more relaxed, and more available to be played with. After a day of gentle play, he started showing hints that he was willing to go further. When I half-seriously suggested oral, I was surprised by his willingness. I shouldn’t have been surprised though; it's normal for a sub to build trust at an accelerated rate during play. It could have been hormones as well, but as best as I could tell, the offer was sincere. We talked about it...

The Clothes Come Off

The moment K agreed to submit to us, the tone of his visit changed. Part of it was anticipation, but another part of it was me preparing mentally for what was coming. Even though we hadn't formally started playing, I was starting to change my expectations from him. When he stepped in front of me between the train station and our home, I felt a need to correct the behaviour. I placed my hand on K's shoulder, and gently indicated for him to stop. Without saying a word, I stepped past him and continued walking. He quickly fell in line behind me, and we moved on. I wasn't angry and him, and he didn't feel chastened by the gesture, but he came out of the experience knowing what I wanted. This kind of interaction was repeated many times throughout the weekend. I don't enjoying laying out detailed rules with complicated punishments. By making little corrections while spending time together, he was free to show his true personality while still learning my expectations. ...

K Comes For A Visit

I first met K more than 3 years ago in a chat room. We became friends quickly, and it only grew from there. I often wanted to experience his uniquely delicate style of submission, but because of the distance between us, it always seemed like an impossible fantasy. When my wife suggested we invite him to visit us earlier this year, I was obviously excited. It wasn't until we started talking about it seriously that I realized how risky it would be. If I meet someone local in a public restaurant, it's easy to walk away if I get a bad feeling; when someone shows up at the door with a suitcase, it's harder to back out. It was worse for K. Not only would he be totally dependent on us as our guest, but it would also be his first trip to Canada. A video chat between the three of us helped considerably. I've met people who have turned out to be very different in person than they were in a chat window. Adding video and sound allowed me to see his personality, and judge his em...

On Training Cats

I am constantly running into the opinion that cats are impossible to train. It is true that they can be stubborn, difficult, and even manipulative themselves, but they can still be trained. It's not easy, and it can take some time, but it can be done. If you don't have a cat, these tricks will work just as well with a human, even if they aren't wearing kitty ears. The key to training a cat is understanding that it is an emotional creature. It has desires and needs, and you can use them to your advantage. If you make a cat do what you want, and keep it doing what you want, those changes become habits. If you keep encouraging the habits of you like, and discouraging the habits you don't like, your enjoyment of your pet will constantly improve. 1) Exploiting Natural Urges and Desires The way to manipulate a cat is to harness it's natural urges. Hunger is an easy choice. If you delay feeding a cat until it does something you want, it will take the hint quickly. I...

Fiction: Sunday Morning

This is a work of fiction written by my close friend W. We sometimes do this thing where I will masturbate while he describes a scenario I give him. On this particular day, I asked to him to imagine that he was my owned slave, with pierced nipples and penis, waking up early on Sunday morning to begin chores while my wife and I are sleeping in. I’ve chosen to share it not only because it’s a unique piece of carefully thought out fiction, but because it’s also a detailed snapshot of what I’m hoping to find as a regular part of my life. - Mr Meany Pants At 5AM I'm awoken to the odd electric buzz of the electric bolt of the cage door going off. It's a good way to start the morning because I've got 30 seconds to get out before the cage door relocks and if it does I am in deep trouble. I'm a bit groggy but I get out of the cage and immediately turn around to set my bed in order, such as it is. Since I'm in a spare room that night, this consists of putting the cage up ...